Two Boys and Papa in the Kitchen: Recipe For Disaster?

 

Welcome to the November Carnival of Natural Parenting: Kids in the Kitchen

This post was written for inclusion in the monthly Carnival of Natural Parenting hosted by Hobo Mama and Code Name: Mama. This month our participants have shared how kids get involved in cooking and feeding. Please read to the end to find a list of links to the other carnival participants.


 

The kitchen is my domain – i’m in it probably more than any othe room in the house. More hours than I can even count. Involving my three kiddos with cooking has become routine for us.  From cracking eggs to mashing potatoes and crushing crackers to make crust, over time i have figuredout a way to modify and hand over tasks to the “mini chefs” as they like to call themselves.

One afternoon not too long ago, as I was getting ready to bake for an afternoon playdate, Bella needed to be changed.  I had to leave the kitchen but promised to return quickly.  To my surprise, as I walked back to the kitchen I discovered handsome hubby and the boys had already started baking.

I literally gasped! My hubby is a great dad, he plays and reads, helps quite often and even does the laundry. There is one thing he absolutely hates: Sticky messes.  Now with three children, sticky messes are pretty much a given but hubby always, and I mean always figures out a way around them. Yet, there he was, in the “sticky mess is practically a garantee” zone of our house elbows deep into batter.

So I confess, although hubby looked mighty handsome baking away with the boys, I felt a little out of control. Here was my kitchen, my mixer, my tools, my zone being taken over. I started to meddle:

“Waiiiiiiiiiiit, do it this way”I offered quickly.  Followed by “OH we don’t do it that way.” And more words kept coming “It’s going to drip and burn like that.”

Then a thought hit me square in the face; I should really step away, embrace the moment, let the dudes of the house bake and go relax, or organize the bills, or something, anything. So, I told myself to step away, and yet there I was in a state I would describe as something like a paralyzed hoover craft. Then I had to tell myself again it was just cupcakes and really hubby was fully capable and finally I left.

All I heard from the kitchen was laughter and happiness. The boys were so excited to bake with their papa and in the end there were no sticky messes left behind for me to clean up at all, in fact the kitchen was cleaner than when I bake.   I realized that having papa bake with the boys was not only fun for them but also an important way for them to realize that mama and papa can both do pretty much anything around the house or elsewhere.

Bonus: The cupcakes were delicious and our bills finally and I mean finally after six months got filed away!

 


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Carnival of Natural Parenting -- Hobo Mama and Code Name: MamaVisit Hobo Mama and Code Name: Mama to find out how you can participate in the next Carnival of Natural Parenting!

Please take time to read the submissions by the other carnival participants:

(This list will be live and updated by afternoon November 8 with all the carnival links.)

  • Baking & letting go — Cooking with kids can be a mess. Nadia at Red White & GREEN Mom is learning to relax, be patient, and have fun with the process.
  • Family feeding in Child of Mine — Lauren at Hobo Mama reviews Ellyn Satter’s suggestions for appropriate feeding and points out where her family has problems following through.
  • Children with Knives! (And other Kitchen Tools) — Jennifer at True Confessions of a Real Mommy teaches her children how to safely use knives.
  • “Mommy, Can I Help?” — Kat at Loving {Almost} Every Moment writes about how she lets her kiddos help out with cooking, despite her {sometimes} lack of patience!
  • Solids the Second Time Around — Sheryl at Little Snowflakes recounts her experiences introducing solids to her second child.
  • The Adventure of Toddler TastebudsThe Accidental Natural Mama shares a few things that helped her daughter develop an adventurous palate.
  • A Tradition of Love — Kelly at Becoming Crunchy looks forward to sharing the kitchen traditions passed on from her mom and has already found several ways to involve baby in the kitchen.
  • The Very Best Classroom — Alicia C. at McCrenshaw’s Newest Thoughts reveals how her kitchen is more than a place to make food – it’s a classroom!
  • Raising Little Chefs — Chef Mike guest posts on Natural Parents Network about how he went from a guy who couldn’t cook to a chef who wanted to teach his boys to know how the food we love is made.
  • In the Kitchen with my kids — Isil at Smiling like Sunshine shares a delicious soup recipe that her kids love.
  • Papa, the Pancake Artist — Papa’s making an incredible breakfast over at Our Mindful Life.
  • Kids won’t eat salad? Try this one! — Tat at Mum in Search is sharing her children’s favourite salad recipe.
  • Recipe For a Great Relationship — Cooking with kids is about feeding hearts as well as bellies, writes Hannah at Wild Parenting.
  • The Ritual of Mealtimes — Syenna at Gently Parenting Twins writes about the significance of mealtimes in her family’s daily rhythm.
  • Kid, Meet Food. Food, Kid. — Alburnet at What’s Next? panicks about passing on her food “issues” to her offspring.
  • Growing Up in the Kitchen — Cassie at There’s a Pickle in My Life shares how her son is growing up in the kitchen.
  • Harvesting Corn and History — From Kenna at School Garden Year: The kids in the school garden harvest their corn and learn how much history grows in their food.
  • My Guiding Principles for Teaching my Child about Food — Tree at Mom Grooves uses these guiding principles to give her daughter a love of good food and an understanding of nutrition as well as to empower her to make the best choices for her body.
  • Kitchen Control — Amanda at Let’s Take the Metro writes about her struggles to relinquish control in the kitchen to her children.
  • Food — Emma at Your Fonder Heart lets her seven month old teach her how to feed a baby.
  • Kitchen Fun? — Adrienne at Mommying My Way questions how much fun she can have in a non-functional kitchen, while trying to remain positive about the blessings of cooking for her family.
  • Kitchen Adventures — Erica at ChildOrganics shares fun ways to connect with your kids in the kitchen.
  • Kids in the Kitchen: Finding the Right Tools — Melissa at Vibrant Wanderings shares some of her favorite child-sized kitchen gadgets and where to find them.
  • The Kitchen Classroom — Laura at Authentic Parenting knows that everything your kids want to learn is at the end of the ladle.
  • Kids in the Kitchen — Luschka from Diary of a First Child talks about the role of the kitchen in family communication and shares fun kitchen activities for the under two.
  • Our Kitchen is an Unschooling Classroom. — Terri at Child of the Nature Isle explores the many ways her kitchen has become a rich environment for learning.
  • Montessori-Inspired Food Preparation for Preschoolers — Deb Chitwood at Living Montessori Now shares lots of resources for using Montessori food preparation activities for young children in the kitchen.
  • My Little Healthy Eater — Christine at African Babies Don’t Cry shares her research on what is the best first food for babies, and includes a healthy and yummy breakfast recipe.
  • Two Boys and Papa in the Kitchen: Recipe for Disaster?MudpieMama shares all about her fears, joys and discoveries when the boys and handsome hubby took over the kitchen.
  • Food choices, Food treats — Henrietta at Angel Wings and Herb Tea shares her family’s relationship with food.
  • learning to eat — Catherine at learner mummy reflects on little M’s first adventures with food.

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Ariadne is a happy and busy mama to three children. She practices peaceful, playful, responsive parenting and is passionate about all things parenting and chocolate. Ariadne has a Masters in Psychology and is a certified Positive Discipline Parenting Educator. She lives on top of a beautiful mountain with her family, and one cuddly dog.

34 Responses to Two Boys and Papa in the Kitchen: Recipe For Disaster?

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  2. Aw, that’s really a very lovely story, and such a valuable lesson too. I must admit, I love when my husband and daughter are in the kitchen together, she really seems to love it.

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  4. That is so great! My favorite part was when you stopped yourself from meddling — there’s a lesson I need to learn over and over. (And yea that your bills are filed now! Hee.)

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  6. What a sweet, sweet story 🙂 My hubby is not a huge kitchen help (well – not the cooking part, he does do a lot of cleanup though), so I would probably feel exactly the same way if I saw him in baking! Good for you for letting them be.

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  10. Ah so difficult to bite our tongues isn’t it? Well done! I have very similar tendencies to want to give a little friendly advice, but I usually and quite rightly get told not to interfere. So I go chop some firewood instead!

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  12. Love it! I’m glad you got to embrace the moment and do something else. My partner cooks once a week on Sunday and I can not be in the kitchen with him at that time otherwise I’ll totally meddle. He’s the same too…just last week he told me I chopped the onions too big then told me that ‘no-one cooks like that!’ when I turned off the stove halfway through cooking because my boy needed help on his potty! I had to remind him that while our cooking styles are very different, both of us always make nice tasting food so let’s just leave each other to it!! All that said he is wonderful when our daughter tries to help him in the kitchen and he exposes her to different activities and techniques than I do. What a blessing family food making is!

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